Today in society it seems that lying has not only become accepted, but even expected in our day to day lives.
“Does this dress make me look fat?”
“Does my hair look OK?”
“Am I being annoying right now?”
Just to name a few examples, it doesn’t really matter what the real answer is, what you are expected to say is no, yes, and no.
Now these responses aren’t really that bad, in all reality looking fat isn’t that huge of a deal, I may not like your hair, that’s just my opinion, and YES you are getting on my nerves, but I’m pretty good at tolerating you, plus I’ll never see you again. The problem is when these little ‘courtesy lies’ start to spread to other aspects of our lives.
“Why are you breaking up with me?”
“Why is your party cancelled?”
“Why didn’t you return my call?”
What you say in these situations and what you really feel end up being entirely different.
“I like you, but I just don’t think things are working out here.”
“I’m feeling sick, and I don’t think that having a party would be a good idea.”
“My phone hasn’t been working.”
While our up-bringing has made it exceptionally difficult for us to be honest, or as its come to be called lately, blunt, honesty continues to be the best policy.
“The truth? I thought about it, and there’s just nothing I like about you.”
“The party is still on; I just don’t want you there.”
“Take the hint; I don’t want to talk to you!”
OK, maybe you can be a little more subtle when you try to respond. The point of this is that the truth has a way of traveling, often times it moves faster than lies. If you have ever been on the receiving end of one of these lies, you can understand what I’m about to say…
Nothing gives the sense of betrayal like finding out the truth from an innocent first party.
“Dude! Why weren’t you at the party? It was totally awesome!”
“Ummm, Mike told me it was cancelled…”
“Crap…”
I hope you’re laughing right now, cause that means that you’ve either never been there, or you’re a good enough natured person to deal with it and move on. As for the rest of you, I know how much it sucks to be ‘that guy.’
For those of you who are guilty of lying (and not just about the examples I’m giving) which I’m pretty sure includes the general population, make amends. As much as you may not really like a person, they deserve to know the truth about what you’re thinking. You’re not going to like every person you meet, and you aren’t gonna want to spend time with every person on the planet. I guarantee that, at some point in your life, you will meet a person that you don’t want to talk to/ be around. Unfortunately the tendency is to lie, and come up with a valid excuse not to talk to them. It’s hard, but do the right thing.
For those who have been lied to, the same principals apply, if someone doesn’t want to talk to you, deal with it, there are like 6 billion people on this planet, odds are that someone out there IS gonna want to be your friend. If you fail, get up and try again.
I hope you enjoyed reading this, Any questions, concerns, or comments you may have are more than welcome! Tell your friends about it too!
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